CCSF Newsletter June 2022

Love one another with… affection. Outdo one another in showing honor.

Romans 12:10

Men who view women as their equals are less likely to commit an act of sexual assault.

Futures Without Violence

Dear Friends, 

This month we want to give honor to all the good fathers and let them know we appreciate their amazing love for their children. We hope our articles reflect that gratitude. We also want to honor the organizations that are helping build up future fathers, boys and teens. Thank you for doing a difficult and significant job.

This month’s e-newsletter includes:

Coaching Boys Into Men

A Call to Men

Breaking Out of the “Man Box”

Understanding PTSD

Window of Tolerance

CCSF has moved to Twitter

Babies of Homelessness

Refuse to Abuse

Have a refreshing and restorative summer.

Stop the Abuse, Heal the Family, Change the Future



Twitter: @CCSFDV

Christian Coalition for Safe Families June 2022

Coaching Boys Into Men

Coaching Boys Into Men (CBIM), developed by Futures Without Violence, is the only evidence-based prevention program that trains and motivates high school coaches to teach their young male athletes healthy relationship skills and that violence never equals strength.

CBIM has been implemented in every state and in many countries around the world. Its power comes from leveraging the critical role that caring, consistent coaches play in the development of young people.

Beginning this summer, Futures Without Violence will hold free, monthly, virtual Advocate Certification trainings! In addition, FUTURES recently launched their new Coaching Boys Into Men & Mental Wellbeing Initiative!

FUTURES has developed new content & materials to support conversations around mental wellness with young men.

A Call to Men

Do you know about A Call To Men? This organization works to transform society by promoting healthy, respectful manhood and offering trainings and educational resources for companies, government agencies, schools, and community groups. They work to raise men’s and boys’ consciousness about their collective socialization so that they can think critically about how they might be reinforcing or passing on harmful beliefs and so they can challenge those beliefs in other men. They address the root of these problems (from domestic violence and sexual assault to sexual harassment and workplace discrimination) and are paving the way for gender equity.

Breaking Out of the “Man Box”

The Man Box is a term coined to illustrate the ways in which men are taught to view women and girls and the concept of what it means to be a man. Inside the Man Box, men are expected to be strong, successful, powerful, dominating, fearless, in control, and emotionless.

Inside the Man Box teaches that boys and men don’t cry, anger is the only acceptable emotion, and men can’t ask for or offer help. In the Man Box, women are viewed as objects, as the property of men, and as having less value than men.

The teachings of the Man Box enable violence against women and those at the margins to persist. It devalues all those who don’t conform.

Understanding PTSD


Post Traumatic Stress Disorder is an anxiety disorder that some people develop after seeing or living through an event that caused or threatened serious harm or death. PTSD may result in sleep problems, irritability, anger, recurrent dreams about the trauma, intense reactions to reminders of the trauma, disturbances in relationships, and isolation. Some people may recover a few months after the event, but for others it may take years. For some, PTSD may begin long after the events occur. However, PTSD can be treated.

From Safe Relationships Magazine

Post Traumatic Stress Disorder is a neurological response. Trauma worsens with time and the lack of treatment because the brain automatically reacts in similar traumatized ways. Each time it does the same thing, it hard-wires the reaction, making the traumatic reaction the predominant reaction to a trigger. Without tools and intervention, years and decades can roll off the calendar with symptoms becoming more ingrained.

Window of Tolerance

From Good Therapy Blog

Window of Tolerance is a term used to describe the zone of arousal in which a person is able to function most effectively. When people are within this zone, they are typically able to readily receive, process and integrate information and otherwise respond to the demands of everyday life without much difficulty. That person is likely to be able to reflect, think rationally, and make decisions calmly without feeling either overwhelmed or withdrawn.

During times of extreme stress, people can move out of their window of tolerance to either hyper arousal, or hypo arousal. In hyper- or hypo-arousal an individual may become unable to process stimuli effectively, affecting the ability to think rationally, and often leading to the development of feelings of dysregulation, which may take the form of chaotic responses or overly rigid ones.

Each individual’s window of tolerance is different. People are generally more able to remain within the window when they feel safe and supported. Most people move between these varying states of arousal from time to time.

People who frequently operate outside of their window of tolerance may experience mental health issues, such as depression and anxiety. Trauma and/or extreme stress often make it more likely a person will become either hyper- or hypo-aroused.

CCSF has moved to Twitter

Out with the old, in with the new! After years of mounting difficulties with Facebook, CCSF has moved our news and information sharing to Twitter. We will use that platform to continue to bring awareness to local and national stories, keeping the spotlight on domestic violence cases and solutions. You can also see our Twitter feed on the right sidebar of our website. You may need to click on Tweets by CCSFDV to see the continuous feed. Please follow us on Twitter at @CCSFDV.

Babies of Homelessness

Babies of Homelessness is starting a campaign Give A Little, Help A Lot. Babies of Homelessness provides diapers, formula, and wipes to low-income families and families facing homelessness in King and Snohomish counties. “Having the basics can change everything!”

Refuse to Abuse

There is still time to sign up for Refuse to Abuse 5K, Saturday, July 9, 2022, 9AM, at T-Mobile Park. This super fun event is a time to celebrate the resilience of survivors and the power of community!

Funds raised for Refuse to Abuse support the Washington State Coalition Against Domestic Violence. Runners/walkers wind to the upper level of T-Mobile Park, then back down and finish on the field! Check out the website to sign up.

©2022 Christian Coalition for Safe Families

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